Are you living a life of meaning and purpose?
Are you feeling sadness and regret over parts of your life and really want to get back on track to meaning, purpose, and fun in your next chapter?
Have you been successful your whole life, yet felt something was missing? You should be happy and yet …
And yet, when asked what you want, you really don’t know just what will make you happy.
You are in great company about 90% of people dont know what they want? But they can certainly tell you what they dont want.
Have you experienced being traded in for a younger model or losing your spouse far to early, and now that you’ve gotten over the shock, you are feeling a bit sad and regretful for the past years.
Are you wondering what in the world you want to do with the next chapter in your life? The possibilities are endless, yet you have no idea what would make you happy or what you want to do.
There are many things that contributed to you getting so far off your path that you can no longer see it.
When life happens, we often lose track of meaning and purpose and get caught up in urgent and needed, and then the doing. I know I did.
When the busy-ness of life takes over and we get challenged and pulled in all different directions, we as women often heed the call of others, taking over our lives, thinking this is our purpose – to be here for them… the children, the teachers, our partners, the PTA, the neighbors, the extended family, and on and on. If you are like me and still working in Corporate in a challenging position, you can wake up one day wondering, “Is this all there is?” or “when is it going to be MY time?” People thought you had it all together and that you truly had it all – the husband, great house, kids, fabulous job and vacations.
And the hamster wheel kept on rolling.
Then one day, you have that life changing event – maybe it’s a life changing diagnosis, the death of a loved one, being traded in for a younger model, loss/end of a career, becoming an empty nester, or something else equally as attention getting.
And now that the rug has been pulled out from under you, you finally get that chance – to devote some time and attention to YOU and what is going on, and what you really want.
After all, time waits for no one. You look in the mirror and wonder what happened – to that excited, eager, fun loving woman that you once were. You wonder how in the world did you not see this coming!
Under your well-executed façade of business and perfection, inside you were in pain, feeling empty much of the time.
But the great news is, your purpose, your desires are still there! Chances are just under the surface, waiting for just this moment to bubble up or BURST out as they have been patient far too long. Waiting for YOU.
You are so ready to design and manifest a life that’s in harmony with your Soul’s purpose. This is the place for you. Welcome home.
Continue PRETENDING that you don’t want or need anything (like connection, help, or being heard when you are down) and using a lot of ENERGY to look like you have it all together when you don’t
AND SPEND the remaining TIME you have left on this planet staying STUCK
without the world benefiting from your true gifts and mission,
WITHOUT you having experienced the true Fabulousness & FUN of life, the fulfillment and meaning that only living from your purpose can bring.
Spend the rest of your life regretting not stepping into that BIGGER, GRANDER Version of you, your Authentic SELF where you share your unique blend of values, desires, talents, personality, and your body all come together to create you and your mission & purpose
And all the times you didn’t go out because you didn’t have the right thing to wear
All the times you shied away from the fun group because you should be going home
All the vacations you didn’t take to the places you wanted to go because somebody else didn’t want to go there.
What else have you NOT done that was important to you? What else have you NOT said that you’ve wanted to?
You can use this feeling as FUEL, as the CATALYST to get to really DO something fun, something Extraordinary in and with your life
AND do what it takes GIVE YOURSELF the GREATEST GIFT –-
PERMISSION TO WANT WHAT YOU WANT — so that you can find the MEANING/PURPOSE in your life and start living from there (your authentic self)– where all the FUN, EXCITEMENT, and PASSION lie. To truly tap into what really MATTERS to you and go live a life you LOVE from that place.
This means to DARE showing up … in full “YOU bloom” (aka OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE)
This means giving up the PEOPLE PLEASING once and for all and stop SETTLING for the EXPECTATIONS of others
This means doing more of what LIGHTS YOU UP!
- Taking that singles trip to Italy, where you’ve always wanted to go, adorning those sexy dresses you’ve never found time to wear
- Singing at the top of your lungs, just because YOU LOVE to
- Taking road trips Thelma & Louise style with your favorite girlfriends
- Spending a month in Africa saving the elephants, taking in a photo safari
- Creating that business you’ve always wanted
- Devoting time to get back into great physical shape
- Finding time to write the books you know are within you
- Wearing the clothes you want vs. the clothes you should
- Doing what you’ve always wanted and never allowed yourself!
What if YOU actually lived so that YOU MATTERED instead of catering to everyone around you, all with their own agendas and needs, living their lives to the fullest?
What would it look like to live your life to the fullest, FILLED WITH the things, the experiences, the causes, and the adventures that MATTER to YOU?
Can you IMAGINE how that FREEDOM feels?
Is it time that you make yourself and your desires a priority? This is truly YOUR Greatest GIFT to the WORLD and it’s the gift that only YOU can bring.
I grew up as the oldest of 3 girls, the responsible one, and when my dad died when I was 5, I became the “strong” one as well. At some level, I felt responsible for everybody’s feelings – especially my mom’s. I literally moved away – 4 states away – to separate myself. That worked for a while – until I got married and had my son.
For the past 20 years, I’ve gone from feeling strong and free – before marriage, to totally immersing myself in everybody’s life to “help” them at some level. I negated my desires, made myself feel guilty for wanting vacations that my husband didn’t want, and planned everything so that everybody was happy – that is, all but me. Working full time, picking up my child from daycare after work, and then the evening routine – left no little time for me, and when I thought about it, I felt guilty. Vacations were to visit family – ok, but when do we get to be on vacation!?! Not to mention not being in love with the work I did.
After years of this, my life felt empty; where was the meaning, the fun in life? I could tell you what I didn’t want, but had no clue what I did want – what would make me happy. I was so far away from myself and had no idea how to get me back.
Then one day, the sh*t hit the fan. Something we almost got divorced over – and I had to take a good look inside right after blaming and screaming, and crying, and talking with all my friends. Where had I settled, when had I not spoken up when I wanted to, when did I stop paying attention, when did I stop showing up as me? After pointing fingers outside of me – I had to own my share of the responsibility for creating this mess.
Yes, I recognized where I had settled in my marriage, in my career, and with myself! I did things I thought I should, not asking any more for what I wanted and needed, not speaking my truth. The truth was, I did not believe what I wanted mattered, that my truth mattered. I was there for others – to take away their pain, to help support them. But I wasn’t there for me.
I had totally lost myself – lost my belief in and my confidence in myself – my abilities, my looks, my gifts, and talents.
It took a life changing event to make me really look inside and do the work it required to not allow myself to die with the music (and FUN) still in me. To realize that I AM IMPORTANT, and what I want matters.
After many trials and errors (therapists, classes, courses, life experiences, workshops, learning), I found tools that actually work – to clear the crap out of my way and allow me to find myself again. I studied the best of these tools and have used them with my clients for a number of years to assist them with their own journeys.
I went from knowing what I didn’t want, to knowing what I do want and claiming it – without apology and without caring what anyone thinks – of me, my choices, the investments I made in ME, and letting go of things that no longer served me.
I went from closet sadness and secret remorse (masking as happy and confident) to waking up in joy and gratitude every day – for all the circumstances of my life and for what I now recognize as my purpose.
I went from hiding myself under baggy clothes to wearing clothes that feel stylish and great on me.
I went from being sick and tired of being sick and tired to boundless energy and enthusiasm.
I went from rescuing and coddling people in my life to letting them go – to live the lives they are meant to live from their truth, and allowing the circumstances in their lives to teach them.
I went from avoiding anger at all cost, to calmly standing there, listening to another say what they have to say in anger and allow them to voice “their” issue.
I went from buying a regular old sedan (which is totally fine) to finally getting the convertible that I have allowed myself to be talked out of for YEARS! AND I LOVE IT!
I went from not showing up as me to stepping into my power and living my life on my terms.
*** I want you to know, it doesn’t have to take YEARS (like it did me) to go from Heart Ache, Resentment, and Feeling like you Wasted some of the best years of your life to finding your SPARKLE and CREATING YOUR FABULOUS LIFE!
I’ve taken years off the process just by having found tools that get at the heart of things that keep us stuck.
There is such a MAGNIFICENCE just below the surface waiting there for you – to find it, acknowledge it, to feed and water it, and gently allow it to blossom.
I see you! I hear you! I am here for you!
If you are ready to FIND YOUR FABULOUS and really start living from a place of MEANING and FUN.